They seemed to be rather tense at first, and it was very funny to see that after talking for a while they found out that a TS guy is actually just a person you can have a chat and a giggle with, just like they are! Amazing, isn't it? 9:-) Anyway, kind of feels nice, the fact that you might have created understanding and compassion for another T* which you don't even know, through 'educating' cisgendered people.1996 April 11, Carl Buijs, “A new perspective on an old topic”, in soc.support.transgendered (Usenet):
Gendering is the process of classifying and identifying the gender of other people, quickly and usually unconsciously, based on just a few visual and/or audio clues. This process of gendering privileges cisgendered people as few cisgendered people have had the experience of being misgendered. The experience of being misgendered is common for all transgendered people before they transition and for many transgendered people after they transition.2013, Kelby Harrison, “Introduction: Many Have Passed; Some Have Failed”, in Sexual Deceit: The Ethics of Passing, Lexington Books, →ISBN, page 12:
The fact that many cisgendereds accept me as a woman despite the fact that my body is male and they know it says some cisgendereds accept the concept that 'person' defines gender. The fact that other cisgendereds and transgendereds(!) will only define my gender by my body shows that others reject the idea that gender is defined by person.1996 April 24, MarlaB 01, “Re: Interesting Book”, in soc.support.transgendered (Usenet):